Activities to Strengthen My Relationship With My Child
Parents are always asking me, “how do I play with my child?” This is a valid questions. Children are always inviting or even begging us grown ups to play with them but so often we’re tired, bored, or just don’t really know how to. Playing can get harder as we age.
But do not fear. I am here! And the secret is, it’s not really about what you’re doing with them but the fact that you are with them that matters. Now I do believe there are some activities that are better than others for building relationships. We strengthen our bonds with others by making eye contact, having shared experiences together, and talking about what we love, fear, and desire. So, if you’re feeling stuck or clueless, here’s some ideas.
Make silly faces at one another. This might sound embarassing or awkward but it’s simple and a perfect form of connection. Making your child laugh, and them making you laugh, will strengthen your bond beautifully.
Invisible tattoos. Grab a paintbrush and a glass of water and draw tattoos on one another. You could even pretend that you’re visiting the tattoo parlour and are looking for a new design. Your child will love being in charge, being creative and getting to drawing on you (even if it’s only water). In turn, the sensory benefits of cool water, a soft paintbrush, a your nurturing presence can calm your child, helping them feel regulated and safe.
Balloon or Ball toss. Do not underestimate the benefits of throwing a ball or keeping a balloon up in the air together. Not only does it help foster teamwork, but also works on hand-eye coordination, frustration tolerance, and competency skills.
Storytime. Kids love to be read to and story time is the perfect time for snuggles, giggles, and connection time. For bonus points, try putting on funny voices for the characters together!
Dancing together. Great for energy release, rhythm and lots of laughs. Let them pick some favourite songs and bust out your ‘worst’ dance moves ever to watch them have a giggle fit.
Puppet Shows. I don’t think I’ve met a kid who doesn’t like puppets. They can be expensive, but I’ve found many of mine in thrift stores. What you can also do is make some out of socks or just use soft toys and put on a show!
Body Parts. Stand opposite each other and call out different body parts, for example elbow to nose. Then, match your elbow with your child’s nose. This is a very funny, very silly game and works on intimacy, engagement, and challenge.
Check-In. This game involves checking your child has all of themself in the room. Did they bring their big smile? Their freckles? Did they they bring wiggly toes?You can list out lots of body parts, making it specific to them!
Remember, the most important thing is that you are present and giving them your complete attention. Even if it’s for 15-30minutes, you being with them is enough! So get off your screen and play!
These activities come from or are inspired by:
Dr Amelia Taylor, Educational Psychologist and Certified Theraplay Practitioner and Trainer
Theraplay
Child-Centred Play Therapy
